yiauuu…

     I know the title is quite catchy in a way, specifically desperate way. But lately I heard a lot of this topic and since it has been a long time I have nothing interesting to post in this blog, I prefer to talk about it. I admit it I am not supposed to comment on the opposite gender neurotic behaviour,  simply because I am not one of them. Therefore, I will talk about their behaviours that can affect a girl’s life.

     I had a friend who likes to quarrel with her boyfriend. For some reasons, I believe the guy was not always to be blamed. Seeing and hearing them quarrel through the phone for more than twice a weeks made me curious to know what was their topic of argument (a bit busy body ) Believe me it was all misunderstanding and "tiny winy thingies". That was my first case. I leave it there and I will come back to it later.

Second case: The guy was 2 years younger than the girl. Since they met at a chat room, they have not met eye to eye with each other and they MMS each other their photos. I was happy because I saw the girl (who is my friend) smiles and her face was radiant as soon as they declare their relationship. One day, when an unexpected incident happen (only some of my girlfriends know) the girl told me that that guy was being a jerk (when she told me how jerk he was, I agreed that judging a person by physical appearance is something I called "not millennium"). Instead of the guy "jerkiness", the girl was crazy in love with him ( I can’t blame her because love works in miracles ways to make us longing to our spouse/partner). The girl even sacrifice her energy, time, money and almost her ambition for him ( I have to spare you the details). At the end, as I expected, the guy left her for his ex-girlfriend. Why do I expect this would happen? The guy gave 1001 reasons and conditions to love her, and my instinct told me that he was not sincere (busy body again- I didn’t told her this because she was happily hooked to that guy, I don’t want to spoil her happiness).

OK. Now, this is my theory and only applied for some cases.

The theory goes like this:

If you have a guy/girl, do not give your body, heart, soul and emotions in total to him/her.

If you do, he/she will take it for granted and when he/she is bored with you, these symptoms will show:

quarrel about small things, unsatisfied in all matters that you say or do, hard to forgive you (though the mistakes is micro) and others

Worst, he/she leave you unloved.

In other word, when you love someone, don’t give him/her your soul, body and emotions in total. But spare some in case he/she dump you.

I need to remind you that showing that you love and care for him/her are essential in order to win his/her heart.

There are differences in both statements above. You may show her your love and care or return his/her passion, but never give your total body and soul to him/her. Just like a pigeon, they are very delicate, likable, approachable but not easily caught or trapped.

One thing I learnt from my experience. We are not like glasses or porcelain decorations in the supermarket which once broken considered sold. We are like cucumber or tomato, once smashed or ruin, to the dump you go. These especially applied to girls, nevertheless applied in special cases to guys too.

Back to two cases above. In the first cases, the guy gave her security, soul, money, energy and willing to do anything for her. But during their first and second year, the girl was happy. And then, when the girl started to get bored and found a guy who seemed to like her, crisis after crises happened between the girl and her boyfriend. One of my friend who also as busy body as me said that if she has a son, she will teach him how to "ngorat" a girl and use "tarik tali" tactics.

But..there is always a condition in this risky tactics. First of all, do not "tarik" the "tali" to hard or the guy/girl received a mixed signals and when he/she confused, he/she ignore you.

Both cases have similarity where one of each couple give everything and anything to the other.

Well, the above matters are all based on my opinion and observation. It may contradict from your point of view.

It is hard to maintain a relationship for years because the "LOVE" word does not only basis on emotions involved. For me love is more than a mixture of tranquilising and mesmerise feelings, it includes responsibility to your partner and yourselves, comes along with some bitterness that both individuals need to work on, differences from both that need to be excepted and adaptable, patient because you and your partner have different brains and background and other feelings that our parents have in order to maintain their relationship for years.

For me, I always pray that love would not hurt me and if I am hurt or fail I am able to love again because these feelings being loved and love others are one of the most valuable things that I do not want to forget and always in me until the end of my life.

LOVE does not always for your spouse, but there are lots of thing on earth that we can radiant our love to: animals, flowers, work etc.

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